the SAHM/ WAHM/ WM Wars

In case you aren't in with the lingo here is your decoder :


SAHM- stay at home mom (which we all know doesn't mean sit on the couch all day mom)


WAHM- work at (or from) home mom


WM- Working mom


I find it interesting that women as homemakers were taken for granted since that's the way it was for hundreds of years. In the 50's it was assumed the house would be clean and everyone fed and the wife looking perfect. I often look on the decade as the time I should have been living. You know dusting in high heels, looking perfect when the Father gets home from work with dinner on the table. Wearing an apron over my dress, with my hair in curlers, running next door for a cup of sugar. The more I think about the more I realize that I would have been even more a misfit than I already am in my own generation.
Children from that time were not to bother their parents. Relationships took second to keeping up appearances and reputation. Attachment parenting wasn't even heard of then, let alone practiced. Don't even get me started on the deception of healthy eating back then. We think of the mother as making everything from scratch, but this was when tv commercials were thriving.
Buy a box pancake mix instead of going to the trouble of making it yourself!

How does that even sound helpful? Even the betty crocker box for cornbread that keeps popping up in my cabinet (eh hem) isn't any easier than my favorite recipe for Corn & Oat muffins. Those quick mixes eliminate the need to add baking powder and salt... whew a load off my mind!


So let's fast forward through the next 20-30 years, and society swing to the opposite side. If you were a SAHM you were not "doing anything" with your life, or living up to your potential.
Women's liberation means we can have any job we want and you can't make us be mothers.

At this point in my life I have stopped seeing a separation between mothers who are paid to work and those who aren't. I have seen working mothers who attachment parent and stay at home mothers who don't. I have come full circle, and still I have been able to remain true to my parenting philosophies, ever-changing as they inevitably may be.

Point is... Invest first in your family (not just children but spouses too), and enjoy whatever it is you do. I couldn't work away from my family (unless financial situations absolutely required) if I was wishing to be back home the whole time. It isn't wrong to be happy doing something you love, just be aware that no one gets short changed because of it.
We have to consciously be present with our family. Even if it means doing nothing. Just be... but be in togetherness. Lay around on the floor with a pile of books. Make some iced tea and go sit outside in the grass. Roll around tickling, giggling, and eating up each other on a big mattress. Talk in your silly voice. Here's a big one for me: stop multi-tasking!

The health of a home effects all of society.